Relational and Attachment Trauma
Trauma experienced from childhood physical neglect or abuse is more recognized by individuals as complex trauma that needs to be worked through.
So what happens when all your physical needs and safety are met, and you still grew up feeling emotionally lonely, angry, or distant from others? Do you wrestle with guilt for being unhappy, lack trust in your instincts, or have an overall lack of self-confidence?
Impact of Distant, Rejecting or Self-involved Parents
What if your parents were emotionally immature?
Consumed by their own emotions, they couldn’t handle your fears, disappointment, sadness or anger… so they pulled away or shamed you for being “too emotional.”
Preoccupied with their own drive for perfection, they were overly controlling, and it was impossible to live up to their expectations. Their own anxiety kept the house buzzing with frenetic energy. The unpredictability of their kindness and outbursts as well as defensiveness left you walking on eggshells…always trying to be “good enough.”
Conflict was avoided at all costs. There was a need to believe that everything was okay, even when there was chaos or family distress. They didn’t protect you or keep you safe from an abusive parent or relative.
When confronted, they minimized the issue just to keep the peace. It left you assuming it was “your fault” or that “something was innately wrong with you.”
Rejection was a familiar pattern. Attempts to seek attention were ignored, and emotional needs were not met. Parents refrained from affection, conversation, or any type of close connection… leaving you believing “I’m not worthy, loveable, or deserving.”
Healing From Emotional Trauma
With EMDR, we can free you from the impact of relational trauma, help you identify healthy partners and friends, and manage engagement with family. You can find out more about EMDR Intensives here, or schedule a free call below.
